There’s a Secret Truth About Potty Training that no one is talking about. Their all out there touting all this awesome advice on the training of the toilet-variety, but no one addresses the real facts here. And there’s one real fact that I just don’t hear at all. (and guess what? I’m gonna share because I’m a crappy secret-keeper, heh). Heck, I’ve even talked about how I tricked my toddler into potty training. But, until it was done, I didn’t even realize the truth about potty training that I should have known all along. This is a dirty, nasty little secret I wish I’d realized so many months ago…
The Secret Truth About Potty Training
- Scary. It can be totally frightening to imagine a child that pees and poops everywhere all day…only, it’s not really that scary–nor is it that messy. It’s not really that big of a deal. There might be a mess, but the kid doesn’t want messes, either–otherwise we’d all still be using diapers. Seriously, its not like you’re cutting the kid’s finger off. You’re just encouraging them to wee in a plastic tub instead of their pants. Not scary.
- Magic. Those “magic” solutions promised by those books with “3-day” results. They are just the beginning. I don’t mean they don’t have a great idea–I basically followed the gist of it and my kiddo is totally potty trained (sort of). But it’s not magic. It’s just a way to get started on the right path. That’s all. But, that can be pretty magic, if you’re clueless like I was. (but I never did buy the book, so maybe I did it wrong)
- Frustrating. They don’t know how to communicate 100%. They don’t always pay attention to their body’s needs. They’re 2. Or 3. And sometimes, just being with them can be frustrating. Potty training is nothing different than trying to read a freaking book with them. Sometimes pleasant, sometimes frustrating as heck and you want to throw that copy of “Cat in the Hat” at them and cry yourself. Potty training is just another part of it.
- Special Time. There’s lots of people that are like “wait until…” and then they name some arbitrary thing like the kid being able to tell you when they need to go, or the kid getting their own diapers for you or whatever. But, really, there’s no “special” time that’s any better than any other. You can do it as early as 9 months, I’ve heard–because it’s all the same thing. You’re just listening to your kid and reacting to their needs. Wait or not, you do it when you feel it’s right.
- Boys vs. Girls. I’ve heard that boys are easier because they can see their wee. Well, I’m here to tell you that even a 7 year old will use that conveniently-placed hose all over your bathroom. I can only imagine what a 2 year old boy would do. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that girls are easier, either. I think there are just pros and cons to each. I kind of love that my girl tries to watch herself wee–it’s funny. But if she was a boy, it would just be something different. Not better or worse.
So, basically, the big “secret” truth about potty training is that no one knows better than you, the kiddo’s parent. So, put on your big-girl (or boy) panties (or boxers) and do the potty training already–and just be patient with the kid because they’re a human, too and entitled to being a party to their own potty-party.
Personally, I wish, now, that I’d done it earlier with Jelly. And Donut might be starting this winter, at 18 months old, after Jelly is a little more established in the routine. The fact that I’ve got a second shot means I can do it better the second time. But that also doesn’t mean that I did anything wrong the first.
Seriously, there’s no one who can tell you what to do better than what you already know. They’re your kid. Heh.
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